The Definition of Ego
You’re standing in the kitchen.
You just asked a simple question.
Maybe something like, “Did you move the towels I left on the chair?” And an answer comes back—not loud, but sharp.
And suddenly, your body tenses. You feel the heat behind your eyes, the tightening in your throat, and the voice rising inside you saying...
“Seriously? What was that tone?”
“Why do I always have to deal with this?”
“I should say something back.”
That voice? That’s ego.
Not the monster we’ve been taught to fear. Just the part of us that wants to be right. Wants to be safe. Wants to win. The part of us that confuses being heard with being louder.
The test begins...
In the pause before your reaction.
Human free will arrives.
-Do you snap back?
-Do you stay silent but bitter?
-Do you soften and let it slide?
Or do you check in and ask, “What part of me is speaking right now?”
"Human Free Will is sacred—but it’s not free."
It’s a choice we must keep making.
Every. Single. Day.
Ego moves fast. Soul moves true.
Ego wants to protect the wound.
Soul wants to heal it.
Ego tells you:
“They’re the problem.”
“You have to prove yourself.”
“Don’t let them walk over you.”
Soul whispers:
“You’re still safe.”
“This isn’t war.”
“You can choose peace without giving up your power.”
Do you have a soul?
Yes, you do. Your Soul doesn’t need to shout. It doesn’t need to win. It doesn’t panic.
Your Soul is the quiet part of you that remembers who you really are.
It’s the you beneath the noise. The part that doesn’t need to prove, or please, or defend. Your Soul is the part that says, “I still want to be kind, even though I’m hurt,” and “I’d rather connect than be right,” and most importantly, “I want peace, not just power.”
Your Soul is not soft in a weak way—it’s soft in a strong way.
Because your Soul knows love isn’t something you chase or control. It’s something you become.
"And this is where free will enters the room."
Every day, in the smallest interactions, your Soul is offered a choice:
Do I pause… or do I react?
Do I defend… or do I listen?
Am I holding love in this moment… or control?
It’s rarely about the big decisions. It’s actually about the tiny, quiet forks in the road:
That one sentence you almost said…
That look you gave…
That breath you almost took before raising your voice…
That’s the test.
Not of morality, but of awareness. Of presence. Of leadership over your own energy.
At the end of the day, your Free Will matters because it gives you the chance to stop and think before you act.
Not just feel something, but decide what to do with it. You might feel frustrated, hurt, or triggered. That’s normal. That’s human. But free will is what gives you the ability to ask: “What do I want to do with this feeling?”
The Ego usually reacts first. It pushes you to say the thing you’ll regret.
To shut down.
To prove a point.
To pull away, punish, or protect.
But your calmer self, the part of you that knows your values, your long-term intentions, your love, waits for you to check in.
“Do I want to act from the part of me that’s hurt…or the part of me that knows what really matters?”
That’s where the real power is.
I don’t have all the answers—but I do know how powerful it is to ask the right questions.
If something in this story made you pause or reflect, let me know. I’d love to hear how you experience ego and free will in your daily life. What kinds of situations test you the most?
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